The Five Love Languages of Children by Gary Chapman

Touches can be large or small and intimate or casual. Physical Touch signifies a person who feels love most through intimate contact.

If your partner wants more time to themselves, taking the kids out one night a week will speak volumes of love.

If you know your partner hates walking the dog at night, taking over that duty will fill their tank.

If your partner frequently complains about a certain task at home, pitching in to remove that task from their day is an act of love.

Understanding which acts will serve your partner best means understanding their life enough to know how to help and their expectations enough to know what they want done for them. Whether you act to remove a burden from their life, help out, or provide space for them to do something else, these acts of service will tell a partner with this language that they and their time are respected.

Prioritizing a request for your presence over work or previous plans shows them how much their feelings matter.Īcts of Service are things done to make life easier for your partner.

If they are in crisis, being there as a shoulder, sounding board, or comforting presence is enough to represent your love for them.

Sometimes, your mere presence is the gift your partner needs.

The feeling will still be of being loved enough to receive something from you. A diamond bracelet will elicit the same response as a crocheted scarf.A small present brought back from a business trip makes your partner feel special because you were thinking of them.The type of gift is less important than the effort to procure it and the desire to give it. A gift equates to thought, and to a person with this love language, that thought is felt as love. Receiving Gifts represents the act of giving a gift as a symbol of love. Talking about your past or fears with your partner will tell them you want them to be part of your life completely.Listening to your partner talk about their day and asking questions to understand how they feel will let them know you care and are willing to be there for them.My final qualm is the cloying, patronizing effect of the narrator's reading style. I also tired quickly of the author's examples of narrow, sterotyed gender roles of children and adults: ' dad wrestles, mom caresses '. Not that someone's otherwise present, loving, supportive parents did not hug them enough. Secondly, the examples of all the things that might not go perfectly in individuals' life path are better attributed to other factors such as neurobiology, life experiences such as traumas and loss, and external social milieu. For one, this parent-shaming approach leads to unnecessary guilt as we are encouraged to try to be perfect parents.

For one, he over-states the 'risks' when parents aren't able to perfectly and continuously offer their child their preferred love language. I don't care for the way this author presents the ideas, although they have value.

The Five Love Languages of Children by Gary Chapman